Intimacy and dating

Also, do clearly discuss limits on your physical involvement (in other words, reiterate that there will not be one) and put methods of adhering to those limits in place.

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You can also discuss things like interests, family, emotional issues, etc.

in greater detail if it looks like things could be headed toward marriage, but caution is always in order as you get more deeply involved.

Remember that in Scripture, we don't see deeply intimate romantic relationships outside of marriage — or if we do, they're described as sinful.

Because of that, let me suggest, even as you assess at this heightened level whether marriage is right, that you limit your emotional (and, of course, physical) intimacy.

The situation has obviously changed somewhat, but that is still too tempting and too intimate.

Pray with the people that are watching over your relationship.

You can share testimonies, talk more deeply about who you are, goals, hopes for your life's ministry (should the Lord tarry and give you many more years).

As I've mentioned before, you should also discuss things like important theological issues and where you're comfortable going to church — to make sure the two of you are basically on the same page.

Finally, you should tell her that if she does not find herself in the same place in terms of her feelings about the relationship (or if she becomes certain at any point moving forward that she is not interested in marriage to you), she should break up with you immediately. That's OK to a point, as you will need to have some more serious discussions about major issues.

That said, it is still dangerous to spend time together alone in a private setting.

For that matter, go back over the list of topics I just talked about.

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